A Shift In Perspective

Story Time With Abbie

On September 25th, 2024, I was invited to speak at a high school for students with hearing impairments. Having just taken my aviation licensing exam two days earlier, I hadn’t prepared much for my speech—only jotting down some talking points. When I received the invitation, I eagerly accepted, even though I had never done anything like it before.

I was uncertain about what to expect but knew I wanted to participate. Concerned about my outfit, I wanted to strike the right balance between flashy and dull. After considering a black dress and rummaging through my wardrobe, I settled on a white top and jeans, which felt like the best choice.

When introduced to the class as the speaker, I was scheduled to talk to the female students first for 30 minutes, followed by both genders. Nervousness gripped me; I fidgeted and repeatedly reviewed my talking points, too scared to meet the students’ eyes for reasons I couldn’t fully articulate.

When the moment arrived, I muttered a silent prayer before introducing myself again. I asked the students for their names and how they would describe themselves, and they eagerly participated. This exercise helped break the ice and gave me a moment to gather my thoughts.

I planned to discuss the benefits of dreaming big but was kindly interrupted by the translator, who asked me to speak a little slower so she could properly sign for the class. I hadn’t considered this need, but it made sense. I adjusted my pace, carefully articulating my words. Before sharing my experiences as a young girl, I reminded myself that our lives could never truly compare. I chose my words with care.

I told them that dreaming and imagining costs nothing—not even one naira. They had the power to imagine as broadly as they wished, and no one could take that away from them.

I asked a few students about their aspirations, and they mentioned careers like hairdresser, makeup artist, baker, and one aspiring to be a mechanical engineer. When I inquired why no one mentioned professions like doctor, I regretted it almost immediately. A teacher explained that due to their disabilities and environment, such aspirations felt nearly impossible. Life in Nigeria is challenging, and being disabled here amplifies those struggles.

Reflecting on my university experience, I realized how difficult it had been for me; I couldn’t imagine navigating a system that didn’t support disabled individuals. The teacher mentioned that the complexities of science could be daunting, filled with challenging vocabulary. Although I regretted asking, I was grateful to learn from the conversation.

I stressed that regardless of their chosen career paths, no one could outshine them if they pursued their dreams wholeheartedly. Whether as a makeup artist, model, or athlete, aspiring to be the best could ignite hope in their hearts.

When the male students joined the class, I quickly briefed them on what I had shared with their female classmates. I then encouraged everyone to ask questions and shared tips to aid their journeys. I highlighted the importance of positive self-talk, kindness to themselves and others, and the significance of gratitude.

As I concluded, I emphasized that being different doesn’t have to be negative and acknowledged each student’s importance. I expressed my eagerness to see them succeed and make a positive impact in their communities.

After what felt like a long session, I finished my speech and took pictures with the class. Before leaving, I shared a story about my close friend from secondary school who had hearing difficulties yet excelled in football. I ended with a heartfelt “I love you” to the class—a sign my friend had taught me—and saw smiles and excitement on their faces

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That day profoundly shifted my perspective. I cannot fully articulate the change, but I know I will be forever transformed. I believe these students are brave and beautiful, and if invited again, I would gladly return. More than anything, I wish them the best in life and hope they find opportunities to shine brightly and inspire others.